Why Are Our Women Saying: "I Ain't Taking Care Of No Grown Ass Man!"

It’s a saying that I am quite sure you have heard over and over again.

But isn’t it the truth?

Why should a woman take care of a lazy non productive man?

Now I am the first to admit, there is no way of telling that those dapper gentlemen in the background are no good, but let us assume for the sake of making the point that they are. I could imagine what it is like for a woman to be let down with an intense heart wrenching disappointment again and again because of the fraudulent persona these losers present.

Now am I saying all men are this way?

Absolutely not!

But I am focusing on these professional goons who specialize in sucking a woman’s life forces down to zero before moving on to the next victim. The two of you meet passionately riding a heavenly wave on the cusp of spontaneity….so you say to yourself:

“He must be authentic because this couldn’t have been planned.”

It feels so good….so refreshing.

He says all of the things you have secretly wanted to hear. For a while, to not ruin this feeling of euphoria, you don’t even tell your closest female friends because of the dose of reality in the form of warnings (“Enjoy yourself but be careful girl!”) that they might feed you. You tell yourself that you haven’t seen any signs that you should back off. But how could you when you only knew this man for only a week or so.

Remember, predators work fast….swift….wasting NO time. What fools you is that he appears to not have that sense of urgency that would indicate that he was on a mission to not only to opportunistically steal your heart, but your resources and finances as well.

He firmly presses forward yet he never backs off.

They cater to your needs (Ego, emotional and sexual) so you do not realize the grip he is getting on your life. His presence feels so good because he fills all of those empty spaces that you sadly at one time accepted would never get filled. Now it seems like a distant almost forgotten memory to think of the slow burn called loneliness that was an uninvited constant companion to your heart. You are a strong independent woman, but it feels lovely to have a man wrap his strong arms around you making you feel “protected”.

But soon enough the very embrace that made you feel so pristine can become the very choke hold that not only has you waiting to exhale, but struggling like hell to inhale. You notice that all of the plans that he enthusiastically spoke of for the both of your lives together are not even mentioned. You notice that he does not give as much time to you as he once did. Yet his demands of you and your hard earned resources have increased.

Against the advice of your presently alienated friends, he moves in.

Something is wrong.

But your ego hinders you from admitting it to anyone. As the story usually goes, this type of man either gets kicked to the curb after much drama or continues to drain the victim while the drama continues to the grave. Either way in hindsight the whole ordeal was a waste of time. So while it may seem a bit harsh or bitter when you are in a social setting and hear the battle cry of the former victims of this type of loser…:

”I Ain’t Taking Care Of No Grown Ass Man!”

It might be the healthiest thing we can teach our naïve daughters to say as they venture into the inviting yet very hostile waters of the modern dating scene......

Contact Lance Scurvin at LanceScurv@yahoo.com or Text Message: 407 590 0755